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Why is it so damn hard to let go?

Updated: Jun 24, 2020

Do you also find yourself clinging on to your expectations? And do you also feel like you want to keep things under your control, even though you know very well that this is not gonna make anything better.

So why is it so hard to let go and trust in something greater or something beyond your own reach? It’s really quite simple: We’re taught (by our family, education, society) to only trust that which we can know, predict and understand.

Now the fun part is that we cannot know, predict and understand everything. (And how boring would that be anyway!) So letting go is actually the right thing to do. Because this is how you invite magic into your life. Why predict and plan and hold on to how you think things should be, if there’s something greater and far more intelligent (aka the universe) that can probably come up with more fun and interesting solutions.

But if you grew up (like me) with parents who tend to be very careful and protective and who also want to keep things under control, it’s very likely that you ‘inherited’ this trait. And by inherited I mean DNA, but most of all energetically. And this is the reason why, even when your mind knows that you should let go, your system finds it so hard to do so.

What we need in order to let go is trust, surrender and peace. All which we can acquire ourselves, by looking around, observing life as it flows. And by diving deeper into ourselves until we touch that which reflects the greater intelligence that surrounds us, letting go of attachments that no longer serve us.

So fear not. Just buckle up and enjoy the ride.

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Tessa Dongelmans | Freedom Coaching | Berlin | contact@tessadongelmans.com | Impressum | 


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